Søren Kierkegaard
The dreaded lurgy is still rampaging at "Riverbend", but worse still, Padma is showing signs of early dementia. Only this morning she told me she can't remember what it was she saw in me when she married me, which allows me to smoothly segue to Søren Kierkegaard and my next topic.
"Marry, and you will regret it; don’t marry, you will also regret it; marry or don’t marry, you will regret it either way. Laugh at the world’s foolishness, you will regret it; weep over it, you will regret that too; laugh at the world’s foolishness or weep over it, you will regret both. Believe a woman, you will regret it; believe her not, you will also regret it… Hang yourself, you will regret it; do not hang yourself, and you will regret that too; hang yourself or don’t hang yourself, you’ll regret it either way; whether you hang yourself or do not hang yourself, you will regret both. This, gentlemen, is the essence of all philosophy." [Kierkegaard's 1843 masterwork "Either/Or: A Fragment of Life"]
Søren Kierkegaard's writing is not easy to penetrate but most men can probably relate to the first line of the above quote, although with the simpler words "damned if you do and damned if you don't". I stick with Socrates who said, "By all means, marry. If you get a good wife, you'll become happy; you you get a bad one, you'll become a philosopher".
With just a week to go to Padma's departure, which will leave me stranded for the next five weeks with a pantry full of 2-Minute noodles, I am also in two minds about it. Of course, I shall enjoy the peace and quiet in the house, and being able to do what I want to do on the spur of the moment, and sleeping in all morning or staying up all night, and leaving the toilet seat up and the sink full of unwashed dishes, but the fun may have worn out by the time my last pair of clean underpants has done the same --- don't even suggest I should turn them inside out!
Anyway, Kierkegaard broke off his engagement to Regine Olsen and never married, so he shouldn't have the last word on the subject.
As you were saying, Padma ...
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